I have been with my fiancee for almost 8 years and he has always had a problem with Premature Ejaculation. He lasts anywhere from 20 seconds to 2 minutes. He usually lasts under a minute. This happens every time. He is 25 years old if that matters. We have already tried changing frequency of sex.
I dont think it’s a self confidence issue. He didn’t know anything was wrong with it. I finally found the best way to bring it up to him.
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August 20th, 2009 at 5:10 pm
He’s producing too much sperms. Yikes. Thank goodness for you. Why don’t you masturbate him, let him rest, then have sex with you again? He will definitely take longer to climax the second time around.
August 20th, 2009 at 5:10 pm
It’s usually inexperience or some sort of confidence or rather lack of confidence issue. Since you’ve been at it a while, it’s probably to do with confidence. Each time he "fails" to keep the motor running, he’s screwing his confidence even more. (no pun intended) He has to work on his confidence, then work on the sex.
August 20th, 2009 at 5:10 pm
Say let him by himself in the morning and tell to slow down later in the evening
August 20th, 2009 at 5:10 pm
tell him to practice by masturbating and taking his time. Mayb as a child he sped up his masturbating so that he wouldnt get caught. that is what messed him up. But the only way he can fix that is by taking his time when he masturbates. Hope i helped.
August 20th, 2009 at 5:10 pm
Try finding that perfect amount of alcohol where he is hard enough to enter you but drunk enough to have his sexual response lowered enough that he wont be SO excited SO fast
and I mean like anywhere from a little buzz.. to drunk …DONT get wasted
seriously… when I am horny and drunk I have always lasted longer than usual so I know what I am talking about
August 20th, 2009 at 5:10 pm
You excite him too much too quickly, good for you. He could try numbing cream, sold at sex shops, internet, or some drug stores. You could also stop for a moment and let his excitement dwindle a little. He has to learn to control himself. He can think of math problems, or think of his parents having sex, anything to distract him from his excitement. Since he didn’t know he was too fast, he has never worked on lasting longer. You should be able to solve this, just pace yourselves with pauses in the movement. Maybe even stopping completed, and letting him withdraw and start again.
August 20th, 2009 at 5:10 pm
Stress, anxiety, weak PC muscle, and inexperience are all causes of premature ejaculation. This is completely normal, because it’s sad to say that most men suffer from it. Relax, don’t feel pressured to perform, and have fun with it, and the problem will fix itself.
But if that doesn’t work than do an exercise called "kegels", this helps build the muscles that are responsible from the male orgasm. By training this muscle (PC muscle) you will strengthen it, therefore strengthening your orgasms as well. The PC muscle is located right between your scrotum and anus. This exercise is done by flexing the PC muscle. The next time you urinate, try stopping mid-stream without your hands, and that is your PC muscle. Contract and release this muscle as many times as you can throughout the day and before you know it you’ll have the ability to last as long as you want.
August 20th, 2009 at 5:10 pm
Is he up for round 2? I usually don’t last long the first one, then we do a little more foreplay til I’m good for another round.
August 20th, 2009 at 5:10 pm
Dear I am sure By the past 8 years you both have tried all the available options for controlling his PE.
As you give his condition In my view he suffers from SPPE ie svere Primary Pre Mature Ejaculation.
This is very complex condition in which self threapy conditions are not helpful. Its a mix of psychological and organic causes.
In this condition patient develops definite Blocks in brain which prevent any kind of threapy. This is a real condition in which no kegals, start stop or squeeze threapy helps. You can try these and examin my statements that he gets any benifits or not.
Here we provide specific counselling to remove such psychological blocks.
Secondly we find the disturbance in sexual nervous reflex action channel. To rectify it we have to prescribe the patients few specific herbal combination medicines(definately NOT antidepressants) so that his hypersensitivity can be calm down.
Most importantly we train the patient in specific techniques like Screw Technique which help to gain control over his early ejaculation.
So you can observe only a comprehensive threapy works in such conditions to sucess.
Hope this information helps you
Dr Anil Kumar
Sr Sex Specialist
dr.anilkumar@hotmail.com