When we have sex it lasts less than 5 minutes every time. At first it didn’t bother me because we usually have great foreplay (oral and manual) so I always "get mine" that way, but sometimes I really want the intercourse part to last longer. I don’t know if it is because he is uncircumcised and that makes him more sensitive or what. Once he ejaculates, he is too sensitive to go a second round….he doesn’t even like for me to move much after he finishes. Oral sex usually takes a little longer, but the actual sex is always quick, no matter what position or what we do. I really don’t want to hurt his feelings, he knows that he is a "quick" guy, but I want to try to make it go longer! Any suggestions?
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September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
Please do not listen to the supersticious answers! It is normal for a male orgasm to take between 5-10 minutes. However, some men are able to last a good amount longer. Usually, the reasons for this are psychological. Suggest to him that when he is having sex with you, to try and stay relaxed and think about something neatral, such as playing sports, or what he has to get done at work. Tell him to focus on pleasing you, rather than the immediate sensation of being inside of you.
One thing you can try, to help him get used to it, is start with a long amount of foreplay. At least to the point that you have an orgasm. Then, once you start having sex, have him go until he almost can’t avoid ejaculating. At this point he must stop immediately. Then he can continue the foreplay, whether it be that he go down on you again, touch your breasts, or you two lie together and make out, he should wait at least several minutes and then proceed with sex again. Continuing this practice several times should help a lot.
And remember, most of this is psychological. Remind him to focus on something other than his pleasure. Good luck!
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
be good looking……
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
have him masterbate before sex, then wait till he is not too sensitve. that should help him last longer
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
shorten the foreplay so he wants more of the intercourse. I know’d i really like the Bjs too but it will make him want the penis-to-pu.ssy action more than the penis-to-mouth stuff.
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
I would definetly suggest seeing a sex therapist. There are many ways that they can help the two of you to increase the longevity of intercourse.
A cheaper means, would be to purchase a desensitizing product at a sex shop. These products use chemicals that actually desensitize the glans penis and therefore delaying ejaculation.
Also, using condoms, if you dont already, may help. Don’t get the thin ones (usually labled sensitive) as they wont differ much, but get the normal ones. They are thicker, and can definetly tone down the "feel" of the vagina, perhaps proloning ejaculation!
Hope this helps, and most importantly, keep trying. Don’t get frustrated, and be understanding for him. It will save you much grief.
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
make him eat a full onion day before you guys have sex. put in on a salad. Also little or no meat or alcohol the day before or when you have sex. Raw veggies, fruits, garlic, onions help blood circulation. This may help him to last longer or even go for a 2nd round.
Food is very important, if you guys eat out a lot or eat lots of meat or fried food its going to hurt you sex life.
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
he’s probably excited-I would be! But also very sensitive too on his glands. No need to think CUT IT OFF! _the foreskin that is. Before you have sex, just get a lube with numbing agent in it. Pack his fore skin with it and wait till he’s good and numb. Then let him go at it slowly. pulling out every 2-3 penetrations. rest and go again.
!!!], are really great but can be too exciting-just the improved senitivity of my glands has really surprized me since they’ve been cover the past year.
I was cut-now retored so I’m finding that the 4skin and all the nerves, [which I lost at birth
But the more he goes 2,3-rest -2,3-rest, his mind will probably start getting the hang of tolerating the pleasure. When the lube wears off-he’ll probably squirt at first but then if he starts feeling the pleasure too much, lube him up again.
IF you are making love with out a condom-numb him up and wash the excess off-or you’ll get numb too-it affects both!If he’s wearing a condom and pregnancy is not a concern, get a large one and put the lube/numbing in the tip and it will keep him very much under control for a very good while-like put your seat belt on missy!
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
Go to the drug store and pick up a tube of Man Delay or something similar.
It’s at least worth a try.
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
1) shorten the forthplay
2) after starting intercoarse stop it before he ejaculate for awhile ask him to take penis outside to your vagina then after repeat forthplay again start intercoarse again stopna while before ejaculation and try to control the ejaculation. this isnot my advice its a sextherapist suggestion
try it and you will enjoy the sex after even10 min within 15 days
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
There are many reasons why a man ejaculates too fast. Biologically, men experience climax much earlier than women. They do so 2-3 minutes after penetration, in contrast to women who take their time (about 12-14 minutes). Likewise, there are also psychological factors that bring about early ejaculation.
So, how can you control yourself from ejaculating too quickly? One way is to do PC muscle exercises. Your PC (pubococcygeus) muscle is the primary “sexual muscle” that forms part of the pelvis. The PC muscle is largely involved with sexual functions such as ejaculation and orgasm. With regular exercise, this muscle can provide firmer and larger erections, powerful ejaculations and more intense climaxes.
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September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
Try these:
The "stop and start" method:
This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate. The stimulation is then removed for about thirty seconds and then may be resumed. The sequence is repeated until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs.
The "squeeze" method:
This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate. At that point, the man or his partner gently squeezes the end of the penis (where the glans meets the shaft) for several seconds, withholding further sexual stimulation for about 30 seconds, and then resuming stimulation. The sequence may be repeated by the person or couple until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs.
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
There are a number of treatments ranging from numbing creams to pills. You can find a lot of information on premature ejaculation at http://www.howtolastlongerduringsex.net
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
the problem just sounds more psychological than physical
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
The first thing you need to do is get him drunk. Alcohol is the answer to all sex questions. When a guy is tipsy its harder for him to cum. Some call it "Whiskey Dick".
September 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
Try staying on top, you will be in control. He may go for kegel.