what can i do to make my husband last longer in bed? our foreplay is only about kissing and caressing for 1-2 minutes because he’s so eager to enter.i’m thinking about suggesting pills or other medications to him but will this going to bring side effects? he’s 49 and i’m 26 we just got married January this year.sex was good first few months but now everything is bland.our love making session only last for 10 minutes he cannot carry on because he lost his energy the second time.i’m not happy i even sleep in different bedroom last week just to avoid sex with him.
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September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
Maybe, before getting married, you should have thought about the fact he is a good 20 years older than you and may have a different sexual agenda to you.
Sex is always good in the first few months – everything is new and exciting and you are exploring each others bodies, likes, dislikes all new things to you both
Sexual energy is at a high
But things do become familiar between you and sex develops a pattern or at least usually decreases in time spent doing it and frequency, it becomes more of an intimacy thing than so much of a randy exciting thing
I don’t think you need to get him pills etc, just talk openly and honestly bout how you feel at your age your libido is most likely alot higher than his so be gentle its nobodys "fault"
How well have you really thought this marriage through?
Are you willing to compromise on this? Because if this is how he feels sexually and he doesn’t want for more you may just have to live with it – he may be happy as larry with your sex life.
Ofcourse you can leave or find ways to please yourself but thats up to you.
Communication is the key – don’t place them blame!!
Use sentences that start with "I feel" so you are owning your emotion and not putting the blame on him
He should feel more open to discussion and your ideas if he doesn’t feel attacked
Make sense?
Good luck.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
Exercise can help with that. Try to make him work out more.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
My husband is 49 and I am glad for viagra. You can also go to a sex store for other options.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
pray about it
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
he’s 49…not 29.
you could try oral first, then get him going again…you know the routine!!
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
At his age, viagra will helph no real side effects, but it also may be fitness. If he’s out of shape, you should do some of the work… get on top, let him rest. Give him 15 minutes to recover and go for round 2.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
You need to discuss it with him, and tell him you need more foreplay and for him to calm down. Tell him you’ll make sure he gets his eventually, but you’d like a little bit more to get you there. Definitely have a conversation about it as soon as possible.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
You probably shouldn’t have married someone twice your age if you wanted someone to keep up with you in the bedroom… Give him heaad in the morning, and at night he’ll be able to last longer. Otherwise, move on and find someone your own age.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
bad times
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
Hon, it wont get any better. Find a younger man.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
try a c**k ring. They are stretchy and go at the bottom of his shaft. They hold the blood there so that he lasts longer. The can also come with a vibrating bullet for your pleasure.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
girl you need to do things a little differently. while having sex suddenly stop and start giving him a b/j. Keep changing it up. Suck him for a minute or two and then jump back on. That’s a good way to make the sex last. trust me it works
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
I know age is just a number but it makes a difference in your sex life. I know there is Viagra and what not but that will probably only help so much. I’m going to say that his age is playing a factor into your sack sessions. Maybe have him go to a doctor and see if there isn’t another issue. If I was 49 and married to a 26 year old, I would be a little anxious to enter as well.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
Try some different thing put some excitement into it. Meds will have a side affect no matter what it is that he might take. Keep experimenting and see where it leads you.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
The age difference is certainly not helping the situation. It doesn’t sound to me from the details you’ve mentioned that the problem is with his equipment, it’s with HIM. He doesn’t have as much energy, and just wants to get it done with it sounds like. No pill on this earth will extend foreplay. If there was, it’d be worth millions. He hasn’t asked you why you’re sleeping in a different room? That seems a little drastic. You just need to talk to him in depth about it…
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
He is at the perfect age where some men only last for a few minutes. You could suggest he get a physical and see if he is a candidate for the little "blue" pill aka Viagra or similar. Explain to him that you need more time with foreplay and also more than 10 minutes to reach an orgasm. That you enjoy making love to him but it is so quick that you have gotten very frustrated. Making love is and can be a very beautiful part of a marriage. However, if one or the other is left wanting then eventually you are probably going to look elsewhere. So if you love him then talk to him and if he loves you he will check into a physical. Good Luck! Linda
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
WHOA!!! Different bedroom already… Sounds like the marriage thing might been a mistake.
I found that with a new mate i’ll last alot longer 45min-1-3 hours… But when i settle down with that person. It goes from foreplay about an hour then intercourse about 20-30min.
He’s just lazy and not carrying about your needs. I have the craving everytime to make penetration quickly as well. But my girlfriend constantly reminds me that foreplay is something she enjoys alot. So i think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel.
Communication is KEY!!!!!!
PS – VIBRATING COCKRINGs ARE AWESOME!!! THEY MAKE YOU LAST MUCH LONGER TOO!
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
Wow!! I suggest for you to talk to him and tell him how you feel. Yeah, its going to hurt his ego, but this is something that needs to be address. You can always try the mineral store too. I know I become a King Kong when I eat lobster, sushi and other seafoods. Maybe, he want to change up on his eating habits too. Exercising, jogging or biking could help too. Good luck.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
You married a guy 23 years older than you. If you thought it through at the time you had to think that this might become an issue. The good news for you is that it’s better now then it’s going to be in 13 years when you are 39 and he is eligible for early retirement. Seriously though, if you love him and want to spend more time with foreplay, you need to talk to him. It’s pretty unreasonable for him to expect sex after 1-2 minutes of foreplay. As much as porn and pop culture would suggest otherwise, most guys only last 5-15 minutes of actual intercourse. If you want your lovemaking to last longer, spend an hour of foreplay, oral, etc. Make his short performance of intercourse be the cap to a great hour of intimacy, rather than it being the only part of it.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
Your expectations are totally unreal. You will have to clearly define with him what you want and how long you want it to last. If you can’t trust the man you are married to to talk about this, you need to grow up.
First of all 1-2 minutes of foreplay is a lot more than most women get. Yes, I agree you should get more. Make it interesting with each other. To make it last longer. STOP. Don’t get in a big hurry to get into the action. Talk, discover each one’s body. Make the foreplay non-sexual as you are looking each other over.
If he’s too eager to penetrate, tell him to slow down or stop. Tell him to take more time. It’s not embarrassing or wrong to want this.
You say it lasts 10 minutes. That’s 1-2 for foreplay and 8-9 of intercourse. That’s pretty good I think. If he can stroke you for 8-9 minutes, he’s holding back pretty well. If your main fault finding is in the foreplay and the after-sex part, it’s time to address it and meet in the middle on some form of compromise.
Don’t withhold sex from him and don’t deprive yourself of a man wanting to show you that he loves you and loves being close to you.
There’s not many men 49 who can go more than once. Therefore, make the one and only time he can a great one and one you both can enjoy.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
have u tried talking 2 him? tell hom how ur feeling.get him 2 do forplay when he gets really turned on get him 2 stop then turn the tables on him u do the forplay 2 him,keep this going untill u both r out of ur mind with pleasure then u enter him he will love the fact ur in control have a great time luv trace
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
Make sure he gets plenty of exercise.
Make sure he doesn’t take any cold or allergy medicine with psudeoephidrine in it, like sudafed or anything "cold and sinus" That will make his willie not want to get stiff.
There’s an erb called TribuPro that is all natural and will raise his testosterone noticeably.
Make sure the temperature in the room isn’t too high. Around here it gets hot in the summer and doing 1000 push ups at 100 f is too much.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
I agree with the oral thing.. Maybe he needs to get his load out first a little quicky and then you give him oral and get him going again. Like a jump start!
Lucky bastard lol..
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
well he is 49.maybe pills are your only option.tell him you want him to last longer and your not satisfied.once u tell him that hell be eager to make you satisfied
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
"i even sleep in different bedroom last week just to avoid sex with him."
Don’t do that. It is your duty to have sex with him.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
More foreplay.
More foreplay and be willing to ‘finish’ more than one way.
It might seem counter-intuitive but more foreplay for him will help him last longer.
Avoid over-focusing on orgasms or give him a complex about it, it will make things worse not better. Just because one or both you ‘ding’ doesn’t mean you’re done. He is older, the longer you wait in between the more like he should be to go for round two – if he’s masturbating at all ask him to stop and save it for you.
Also, certain positions are usually better for ‘him’ or better for ‘her’ – typically doggy is his and reverse-cow-girl is hers – avoid his favorites at first.
Diet and exercise would be the next things to help though honestly 10min is already above average…
If you are stressed, depressed, on SSRIs, or emotional for other reason it will generally affect you a lot more than him. Consider getting a bullet vibrator if you are ‘hard’.
And… talk to >him< not us. Tell him you need/want more romantic sex from him that it’s becoming awfully routine and it’s as ‘wow’ as it used to be.
And don’t avoid him… that will eventually end the marriage and won’t help anything change for the better.
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
Of coarse start with the oral stuff both of you and not necessarily at the same time even though that is fun too . Buy some toys for you tell him you want him to play with you , don’t let him stop till you get at least one "O" hopefully more !!! When your ready for him you take control but your really going to have to be in tune with him . Tell him to let you know when he is about to "you know ". Pull off and squeeze him hard before he does and wait till he relaxes and go back to the oral and repeat till he has to try hard to make himself . If it werx right he will have to try to make himself by that time the sun should be up and you will be about to faint !!! (.*_*.) Good luck @=>, P.S. get him off at least once a day it will help him build stamina !!!
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article2071647.ece
September 5th, 2009 at 9:43 am
At his age it is normal for him so try out some medicines to charge him or refrain from doing sex for a few days and let him come to you.